Olivia has turned 3, which usually means it is a good time to start potty training.
However, I didn’t realize how hard it would be.
When I was pregnant with Carter, i was wanting her to be potty trained before we had baby number 2. I didn’t think she was ready and I was always super exhausted trying to stay awake with Olivia, I figured i wouldn’t be able to manage it.
Then when was almost 2, she didn’t want to be in her diaper. She screamed for me to change her dirty diaper and said she didn’t want to be in it anymore. I thought, wow, maybe this is her way of telling me she wants to be potty trained.
So I opened her little potty trainer that was given to her by my aunt on her first birthday. Got a box with books with Her to read and found some trainer samples from her diaper box that I saved for whenever we would have to potty train.
She sat on the potty and went but still didn’t comprehend that I was trying to potty train her. So I let her sit on the potty and watch a video on the iPad so she would know how it feels to pee. I was super proud she used the potty and thought, yay, she will be out of diapers before Carter is born.
After a couple days she wanted back in diapers. I was confused but when I read forums about potty training and books from the library about when to train, they emphasized to not pressure them. So I just figured she wasn’t fully ready yet and put it on the backburner.
Then on her 3rd birthday party, my one mom friend talked about potty training and asked if we started. I said no and I was thinking maybe I put it on the backburner cause I was dreading it.
My sister was visiting for Olivia’s birthday and asked if we were doing the potty training. We weren’t but then we decided to try it.
I already read a book on it and I figured since she is now 3, we should try to stick with it.
First thing I noticed about the potty training books is that they say to not train while someone is visiting are around. I realized how wrong that is. Why? Trying to potty train a toddler while looking after her little brother is HARD. My sis was a huge help cause while I was trying to find a routine for potty training Olivia, she watched Carter.
Then my attention for Olivia is on her as we both try to figure out potty training.
My first attempt at potty training Olivia was a complete disaster. She was truly terrified. She was kicking and even got her foot in the toilet while I was trying to sit her on the potty. She screamed and cried so hard. It was frustrating and overwhelming cause I didn’t know what to do.
She would hold in her pee even though I knew she had to really go. That morning after breakfast I decided to wait until she had to pee before we had to go anywhere. She had a huge panic attack which scared me so much. I had to take her off the potty and give her snacks. I felt so horrible.
I thought should I stop? All I kept thinking was, if we want her to go to preschool she has to try to learn otherwise you have to pay extra. She is already 3 and most places won’t change diapers for her anymore. Plus, we know her diaper is mostly dry the next morning.
So as I was feeding her snacks, I said should we go back and practice again? I told her I’ll bring her snacks and she agreed. While I was venting everything to my husband and my one mom friend, Olivia finally went to the bathroom! I wanted to cry out of happiness.
My sis and I talked about trying to think of a better routine to help and although some people do different routines for their kids, I realized now you got to do what works for your kid. Somethings work and some don’t. It’s a huge process.
Here’s hoping that whenever she figures out potty training it will encourage her bother to want to do it too. So far, he wants to sit on her little potty while she goes on the toilet.
Oneday the kids will both use the potty and it will be GLORIOUS! Hahahah